What constitutes complete forgiveness? This was discussed at my Tuesday night group last night and the answers were varied. It got me thinking. I think of it as more of a journey. For example, if you have a friends that really hurts you and later apologizes, you forgiving them does not mean that you have to pick your friendship up where it got left off. You can forgive someone but choose not to continue a relationship with them. I do think that if you forgive someone and you choose to continue a relationship you can't use that forgiven hurt against them. That is where I failed.
When I caught Daniel drinking the end of March I had still not completely forgiven him from when I caught him earlier that month. I said I had but I was still walking out the hurt so when I caught him again, with the lying bigger then the first time, it was close to the surface and easy to access. I let it destroy me. I have finally given that relationship up. I am done worrying, hurting, struggling, and basically holding his hand through it. I am tired of being the "bad guy". Either he gets his act together or he doesn't. It is not my job to fix him. That can only be done through Him and my husband has to be willing to participate. If he doesn't then there is nothing left to do but move on.
I have not forgiven him nor has he asked for it. I need to stay hurt for a while so I don't move back into the position to get hurt like that...once again.
What do you think is true forgiveness?